Marry+Age

#Partnersforever

South Indian Weddings have numerous ceremonies, traditions and rituals.

If you’ve ever attended a full-fledged South Indian wedding, you probably know how drastically different they are from other weddings. There’s a heavy influence of everything rustic, organic and floral, not to forget the bride’s gorgeous kanjeevaram saree and tanishq, malabar gold neck pieces layered over each other and bridegrooms traditional attire. Though every wedding is different, there is an overarching warmth that envelops South Indian weddings, making them an event worth cherishing.

Anyhow!! Marriage is wonderful, but it takes hard work to build a solid relationship that will develop into a great relationship. There are a million things to think about when trying to choose a life partner which is why it's so important to know what you're getting into.

The concept of arranged marriages has changed alot. And, not just for men. As a woman, ideally your life partner should be someone with whom you can share interests and who will encourage your independence. As with any relationship, friendship is the key. Good communication from the beginning will help to ensure that yours is a lasting, loving partnership.

Arranged marriages are not like they were, say, 20 years ago. It is now more like meeting someone through your family or like being set up for a blind date. Parents or friends introduce the couple and let them talk in person or phone, then ask for a decision. If the couple says No, it's a clear No. #NOmeansNO. 

However, when parents are involved, there will inevitably be some pressure why it was NO.

These days, matrimonial sites are much more famous with attractive ads of their sites consisting of beautifully edited photos of bride and bridegroom with detail bio data of both. This end up being the ones introducing each other families. I call it an 'arranged introduction'.

Another difference is that it is no longer only the boy who decides first. Girls have an equal prerogative to do so. Also, as women are now more career-oriented and financially independent, they are usually not in a hurry to get hitched.

Deciding to marry someone is one of the most important decisions of your life. If you are confused, unsure or awkward, don't fret - so is the other person.

What are the mysterious ingredients that almost all good marriages have in common? What accounts for the marvellous blending of personalities when two separate and distinct individuals establish a young family and then live together in love and in harmony for the next fifty or sixty years? Is anything of significance know about these long-term marriages that will help others achieve stability in a world of impermanence?

Yessss !! It is Bonding between these new couples.

Research now verifies that the healthiest marriage are those where a proper bonding has occurred between a husband and wife. Bonding refers to the emotional covenant that links a man and woman together for life and makes them intensely valuable to one another. It is God's gift of companionship to those who have experienced it.

Love can be defined in numerous ways, but in arranged marriage "I love you" really means "I promise to be there for you all of my days." It is a promise that says, "I'll be there when you lose your job, your health, your looks, your confidence, your friends." It's a promise that tells your partner, "I’ll build you up, I'll overlook your weaknesses, I'll forgive your mistakes, I’ll your strength.

This kind of assurance will hold you steady through all of life's ups and downs, through all the better or worse conditions. Applicable for both. But to be honest, many husbands and fathers have been thinking about something else. She's cooped up in a house with children, changing diapers, wiping noses and cooking meals. Which profoundly needs to be loved and respected going on and it will be.

The relationship refining process usually occurs in the first year or two of marriage. What often occurs at this time is a dramatic struggle for power in the relationship. Who will lead? Who will follow? Who will determine how the money is spent? Who will get his or her way in times of disagreement? 

If both partners come into the relationship prepared for battle, the foundation will begin to strengthen as years go on.

A famous idiom says - Marriages are made in heaven.

These words are purely out of my mind under influence of internal and external factors about Marriage.  #partnersforever. 😇

-VKC